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Quitters/Winners

In the last two days I have noticed a theme. Yesterday we were mentored by our Sensei on the topic of why people quit. Then this morning, I was reading and the chapter I had just started began by describing the difference between those who quit and those who succeed. I believe that everything happens for a reason so I guess this is life’s way of telling me this is important to share right now. So I will….
The difference between quitters and winners is Fear and Perspective. Most people don’t try something because they are afraid of failure. That fear is so strong that they will find any reason not to try something. The winners are those who know that failure is a natural part of the learning process. They accept it as necessary and sometimes even welcome it. For some reason, people get caught up in how failure might make them look to others. It is amazing to me how anyone can worry more about what others think than what they, themselves, think. I understand that this is hard to overcome. So how does one? Like anything else, practice. Yes…practice failing. Or at the very least, change your perspective on it. Everyone makes mistakes and it is those who learn from them that increase their odds of being successful. If you look at failures as steps towards a goal, then each failure is, in itself, a success. Talk about a win-win.

P.S.–Just wanna say “kudos” to all you out there who have taken the time with the questionnaire. Please don’t let any obstacles stop you from finding your path. You can do it!

“whether you believe you can or can’t, you’re right”

Fear

I have been fortunate to experience physical altercations both in the dojo as well as the outside world. Not to say that I am a trouble-maker, but my career for the last ten years involved dealing with potentially violent people. The reason that I believe I am fortunate is because my training and my career have helped me overcome my fear of getting hurt. It is true that many/most people are afraid of getting hurt physically. While this is not a bad thing, it often keeps people from reaching their full potential. I have learned that the human body is a remarkable thing. It is designed to take an incredible amount of punishment and continue functioning. Furthermore, I now know that I may be struck by someone and it will not necessarily incapacitate me. The only way that I was able to learn this is by getting hit…and kicked…and thrown. After a while, it just becomes commonplace and easily accepted. Fear of pain is a powerful motivator but overcoming that fear is liberating. That fact is true in all aspects of life.

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